Dealing with not feeling good enough

Why did he pick me?

I should be working out today but instead I’m sat on my arse.

I can’t believe she is still friends with me after all this time when all I do is complain about how tough things have been.

I will never be able to run that fast, or lift that heavy. I may as well give up now.

I shouldn’t be eating that chocolate bar, or that biscuit. I should be cutting out bread – she’s managed it, why can’t I?

He thinks that I’m so much more confident and fit than I am – what if he finds out the truth?

I only have 800 Instagram followers, my blog posts aren’t as exciting as other people’s and nobody comments on my work. I’ll never win.

They believe that I’m getting on ok, that I can manage my money, that I’m fine with being alone.

I need to speak up more, to be bubbly and enthusiastic, to push for more responsibility or I’m never going to get anywhere.

Why can’t I focus and be more organised – I should be able to manage my job, blog, studying, working out and seeing friends – everyone else does.

I ought to be thinking about the future – how can I be successful, earn more and get the perfect body?

I am just not good enough. 







Beki x

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  • Reply Emma

    You are more than good enough! Remember ‘Comparison is the thief of joy’ xx

    May 29, 2016 at 3:53 pm
    • Reply misswheezy

      Thanks Emma – this is so true! A great phrase to remember. x

      May 30, 2016 at 9:13 am
  • Reply Scallywag

    Hey Beki, I can completely empathise with this! I actually wrote a post on my blog ages ago called ‘you are doing well enough’. I ran a freaking marathon yesterday and my stupid brain is already going “it was a bit of a crappy finishing time…”. We are enough. We are fit, and fun, and good friends, and good people xx

    May 30, 2016 at 5:22 am
    • Reply Scallywag < post link if you are interested 🙂

      May 30, 2016 at 5:24 am
    • Reply misswheezy

      We are so hard on ourselves aren’t we? Congratulations on the marathon! You did amazing 🙂 And I love the blog post you wrote – it sounds exactly like me! All the crazy thoughts in our brains making us not feel good enough… But after my mini meltdown yesterday I’m able to take a step back and realise that I need to give myself a break sometimes, so thanks for sharing. xx

      May 30, 2016 at 9:12 am
  • Reply Katie

    Please don’t be hard on yourself…you are doing an incredible job! You are fit and your figure is wonderful, don’t worry if you can’t balance everything…just focus on balancing what feel’s manageable/important.
    I get like this a little too often, always comparing myself and I had to unfollow people who made me feel bad about myself…
    The best thing to be is real 🙂

    May 31, 2016 at 11:12 am
    • Reply misswheezy

      Thanks for your kind word Katie 🙂 it is hard sometimes and comparing yourself to others definitely doesn’t help – I am working on not doing that, and giving myself a break!

      June 3, 2016 at 9:27 pm
  • Reply Anna @AnnaTheApple

    Social media is both brilliant and terrible. I sometimes just end up unfollowing people who give me unrealistic views of the world and the body. I will never have long Victoria Secret legs and it’s learning to accept that and not pine over it makes a big difference. You are doing amazing so don’t be hard on yourself.

    June 1, 2016 at 3:39 pm
    • Reply misswheezy

      Ha you are so right! And thanks for the support – social media can be a curse when you’re having a bad day, but all the lovely comments have shown me that it also offers a great network of friends too 🙂

      June 3, 2016 at 9:30 pm
  • Reply Maria @ runningcupcake

    Having a bad day sucks, but you are right, don’t compare yourself to others. Social media can be a bit of a curse- I have unfollowed some people who just made me feel more negative about myself- I don’t think they will know so it won’t hurt their feelings, but it’s made me feel better too.

    June 8, 2016 at 6:32 pm
  • Reply Frede

    I was having one of those days but your post turned it around. It’s nice to know we are not alone with those feelings… And yes, you are enough. 🙂 x

    October 10, 2017 at 9:49 am
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